Speed dating for mormons
If it’s broad enough to be a cultural phenomenon, there needs to be lots of somethings that need changing, starting at the top and extending downward.We’ve become expert in needless suffering.” I’ve wondered the same thing as I’ve watched kids in my mostly LDS neighborhood and my own children.As a borderline narcissistic introvert, you might be surprised to learn that I have friends, even friends from many different lands (states) and persuasions. Of course the rest of you won’t be surprised at all. Here, in no particular sequence of topics, are some observations from students, friends, and neighbors on dating culture among Mormons, and sometimes, others.One friend observed that the experience of two relatives suggests that serious relationships among singles are drying up.For myself, I was in relationships for a lot of my 20s and early 30s, not very seriously and usually breaking up amicably.And Mormons are by no means the only ones to date-to-marry.I believe this dynamic is also carried over and amplified by our segregation of the sexes even after marriage, and our odd institutional fear of men and women being incapable of real, non-sexual friendship.” This conversation took place between two married Mormon women friends: “I never dated anyone before ****** and only went on one or two dates before then.I think this has more to do with me than being Mormon, but I do think that being Mormon made me uncomfortable with dating non-Mormons.
I quote him: “I’ve watched my siblings go through this and it’s really awful.So if it’s not someone you want to marry, break up and move on as soon as possible.” Here is a sequence of comments from a recent conversation on the subject of dating with a group of friends: I have several non-LDS friends who are my age and have either never had a boyfriend or have gone through decade-long dry spells.I think dating is more trouble than it’s worth for a lot of people, and it just gets to be more trouble as you get older. There is definitely a generational shift on this, although I can’t say what the real norms are. I know lots of non-members who are non-daters as well.All un-coupled people are constantly being assessed and assessing—it creates a strange highly-charged atmosphere where men and women can’t just organically get to know each other, which is the norm in non-LDS dating.It also increases the isolation of single people, and can exacerbate and further cripple the ability to relate to the opposite sex as anything other than a potential partner.